Tuesday, May 22, 2012

25 things i want my son to know

For your second birthday, I've come up with a list of things I want you to know about life. Some are funny and some are serious ~ but they are all real. I love you!

1. When I look at you, I see my heart. For all the years I told myself I would never have a baby, I never thought I would have so much love to give until I had you. I must have been storing it away in my heart just for the day God knew when I would change my mind. You have taught me that although I've tried my hand at loving others along the way, I do not need to try so much with those who naturally love and care about me.

2. Bathroom rules. As we begin to potty train, I reflect on the many things I dislike about a man's bathroom routine. Please always wipe the bowl after you go potty. No woman in her right mind wants to clean up after that mess just because you won't do it yourself. Respect your wife and help her clean the bathroom. You make the mess too, so be respectful and contribute to cleaning it. Last, always put all of the toilet lids down so that the bathroom stays in a nice, observably appropriate condition for anyone who enters after you. 

3. Enjoy the innocence of your childhood. There will always be a constant pressure for you to grow up faster than you need to. Don't! I cannot stress that enough. Although life holds so many new and exciting things ahead for you, do not try to fast forward too much. Enjoy being a kid.

4. Accept others for who they are. In an era where bullying is becoming more and more prevalent, remember that people are all different for a reason. If God wanted everyone to be the same, he would not have given us a brain to think with. We all use our brains differently and no one person is right over another. So keep that in mind when you meet new people, form new relationships, or even when maintaining current relationships. Everyone has the right to their own personality, thoughts, actions, ideas, and beliefs. Remember that just because someone is not just like you, doesn't mean they are wrong.

5. Explore the outdoors. Go hunting with your father, uncles, and cousins. Play sports outside. Climb a tree. Camp in the backyard. Enjoy your surroundings.

6. As Dr. Seuss said, "You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose."

7. Respect other people's opinions and be open minded. Everyone has the right to think how they want, but be respectful of others when discussing your point of view. Sometimes you may not know that you sound disrespectful, however once the perception is understood by you that you are being this way, respectfully advise the other person of your intentions. While you should always respect other people's ideas and opinions, do not let anyone walk all over you about what you should or should not believe in this world. Relating to #4, God gave you a mind of your own for a reason. You will become a more educated individual by challenging the thoughts of others, than accepting what everything everyone tells you as true.

8. With that being said, don't follow the crowd for the sake of doing what everyone else is doing. Yes, sometimes it's fun to follow a trend or idea, but investigate the information you receive before accepting it as truth. This goes hand in hand with being an educated individual. Those who are educated can entertain a thought without accepting it as truth.

9. Love letters are legacies and thank you cards are important. With the world becoming more and more fast-paced; emails, texts, Facebook, and other social networking sites are replacing some of the sweetest gestures anyone can provide in regard to love. A love letter, thank you card, or phone call from the heart is a welcome treasure amongst the sea of endless emails and texts that consume us daily. It is refreshing, candid, and romantic. Ask your father to teach you, he's a pro at writing love letters.

10. No matter how many times I hear it, diamonds are not a girl's best friend. Don't ever mistake fortune and fame for an everlasting relationship. Your father and I have been through thick and thin of life and money has never defined us. Remember that if you have a true love, the diamond is not going to matter as much as what's in her heart for you.

11. Travel the world, but be a responsible traveler. Experience the world! Experience new cultures, religions, people, and of course, places. Open your heart and mind to the endless possibilities this world has to offer you.

12. Mainstream your health. Healthy lifestyles that start from your youth will lay a strong foundation to your continued health and wellness as an adult. Take a positive approach to your health ~ physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, and spiritually. Diet, exercise, stress management, self motivation, and positiveness are just a few approaches that can have a strong, everlasting effect on your life, health, and happiness.

13. Always be proud of who you are. Never let anyone put you down for who you are. You have a contagious personality, a loving heart, and a wild demeanor. You are smart, kind, and important. Be proud of that.

14. Be an apprentice. Always understand your household responsibilities. You must learn the following before you leave for college: laundry, making the bed, mopping the floor, cleaning the bathroom, dusting, cooking, grocery shopping, vacuuming, washing dishes, mowing the lawn, and feeding the pets. Your future wife will thank me.

15. Find your passion. Whatever it is, whatever you want to do, find it and embrace it. The possibilities are endless!!

16. You will be my son forever. There is an old adage that states, "A son is a son till he takes a wife...." As you grow up and move away, I pray that our bond stays strong enough to break any truth this saying might hold.

17. Take care of the earth. Recycle! Reduce! Reuse! This is not a trend, it's a must! Adopt this way of life so your grandchildren can see the world too. Be aware of how you live, shop, and consume. Doing some is better than doing none. Remember that.

18. Take the road less traveled. May you always try to make the right choices which may not be the easiest choices. Have the courage that will allow you to lead, not follow. And dream bigger than most others think is possible.

19. Stay loyal. Blood is not always thicker than water. Family is not always just about whose genetics you inherit. You will find this out as you continue to get to know your entire family. Mommy has many family members who do not have an ounce of your blood in their veins. But they are still family. Family can mean true friends and family can mean blood relatives. True friends are invaluable, trusting, and loyal. They stick with you through the good times and the bad, happy, or sad. Some may come and go, but your true friends and family will be with you always.

20. Remember your manners. The world is a much nicer place when made up of polite words and smiles. People really love when you appreciate the effort they've put into something for you. So don't forget to say thank you!

21. Don't lie. There's really nothing good that ever comes of lying and it damages relationships. Stay clear of this in your life and you won't have to contend with the ramifications. 

22. Take responsibility for your actions. There's nothing worse than when someone can't admit when they are wrong, they assumed something instead of having the facts, or when people flat out don't take responsibility for their actions. Everyone makes mistakes ~ remember that. But being mature enough to own up to those mistakes and take responsibility for your actions will define you. Those people, are what the world is craving more of. Be one of them. Say you're sorry.

23. Always tell her she's beautiful. She's going to be your wife someday and you'll live together for the rest of your lives. Telling her daily how beautiful she is will enhance your relationship significantly. She is beautiful, that's why you married her.

24. Look up to your Daddy. In a world where more men are scarce from their families than you can count, it's important to recognize when you see a good one. Tell your Daddy you love him. Remember that he loves you and wants the best for you. Learn from him. Take his advice.  He is the smartest person I've ever met and can tell you anything about politics, traveling, and even ancient Roman times. Keep his number on speed dial and his love in your heart.

25. I will always be your mommy and no matter where you are in life, you can always come home. I will be here ~ always. 

Happy 2nd birthday my little man!

dr. lisa assisted with some ideas and content, thank you for your creativity.


  1. That is one of the sweetest, smartest, important messages to give to your child. You are a treasure.